Christine is a home-schooling Californian mama who blogs over at The Aums Mama. She is one of the Moms I Admire for several reasons, including the fact that she’s been raising her kids from day one in a TV-free zone.
No small feat!
I only killed our TV last June, and as you may know,
our family I went through some pretty serious withdrawals – but Christine has never even had a TV in her home. In this age of increasing reliance on electronic devices from the iPod to the iPad to the Wii to the TV, where our children have become a target-demographic of powerful marketeers, it takes some doing for a mom to “Just Say No.”
And that’s what Christine has done.
She also home schools her four children. This is something I could never do (because frankly, I’m math-challenged, inconsistent, and prone to crabbiness). Christine’s desire to home-school her kids isn’t born from an insular need to shelter them from all outside influences, but from the way her own parents raised her. They nurtured her intellectual curiosity, instilling in her a love of learning that she’s passing on to her children.
So I admire her for her hand’s on parenting and her ability to follow her own mantra: Keep Calm, Carry Aum.
Ado, thank you so much for the opportunity to guest post, reflect, share, and be a part of your “Moms I Admire” series…Wow! When you asked me to write about how I parent my children, the first thing that popped into my mind was how my kids teach me so much rather than the other way around.
So I present to you: RAISING MY FAMILY: WHO’S RAISING WHO?
I often receive compliments from folks who admire how I’m raising my children. Usually, they’re along the lines of, “Wow, you are so brave to homeschool/not have a TV/fill in the blank…I could never do that!”
My children raise my capacity to love. Each time I gave birth, my heart grew bigger and it hasn’t stopped since! They are my greatest teachers on lessons of the heart.
They raise my standards and make me want to live up to them. There’s no greater motivation to give my best at everything I do than having children follow my example.
Of course, they raise my stress levels too, not to mention my temper and voice. But at the end of they day, they raise my ability to forgive…them and myself.
My children raise the bar on the kind of person I want to be and the life I want to lead.
“Keep Calm, Carry Aum.”
I asked Christine 5 questions, and here are her answers.
1. What are your top 3 beliefs about parenting?
Three sayings come to mind:
1. Everything in moderation, even moderation.
2. Parent in private like you do in public.
3. “Keep calm. Carry Aum.”
2. Your best parenting moment?
My best parenting moments happen everyday, when I overhear my kids’ kind and loving conversations with each other, or the way they help each other out when they’re not aware I’m looking. Even a day full of sibling squabbles has some of these precious moments thrown in which confirms the loving foundation I hope they carry with them for the rest of their lives.
3.Your worst parenting moment?
My worst parenting moments happen everyday because my life is full of obligations and distractions and I don’t always maneuver around them in the way I’d like. Ok, maybe they don’t happen everyday but it’s never fun to not put my children first.
4. Good things you learned from your own parents?
My parents helped shape me into a life-long learner. It had nothing to do with school, but more of a feeding my curiosity through quality family time. When I asked questions, they looked into encyclopedias with me, or asked me questions to get me to think. They took me out into nature and were great examples of courteous, helpful, hardworking people. My desire to homeschool stems from such a positive upbringing.
5. Bad things you don’t want to repeat?
What I don’t want to repeat is that feeling of certain subjects as taboo and not being able to talk openly and honestly with my parents out of fear or embarrassment. I practice positive communication frequently with my kids so that hopefully it just remains a normal part of our relationship as they grow up…not something I have to figure out how to do when they’re teenagers.
So far, it’s been working great. I can even say penis and vagina with the straightest of faces!